Is Your Life Working Or Not Working? That Is The Question

Do the same self-sabotaging behavior patterns and the same type of upsets keep showing up in your life?

These conditions keep showing up cause we keep creating them. Without knowing, we actually create our own suffering. This may sound like a harsh thing to say, but as you read the various sections on that site, you will discover that that is true.Every one of us has an itnernal mechanism that forces us to interact in a way that actually destroys love and sabotages our life.Once you discover that mechanism and learn how it works, you can remove it.
The problem areas of your life can then clear up.Here is how it works:When you were born, you were pure love, but you were born into a world that suppresses that state.
You then got hurt. You experienced rejection, invalidation and painful losses of love.As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself.
"Clearly I am the problem." In a moment of hurt, you decided that you were worthless, not good enough, not wroth loving, a failure or other form of feeling "not okay."It wasn't the truth that you were that way, but in the eyes of a little child, it became your truth. You then took that a step further and fought the very notion that you created.
"Worthless is a horrible way to be.

If I really am worthless, I mihgt as well die."You automatically fought the notion that you created and you fought all the hurt that came with it. From that moment on, the underlying fcous of your life would be to avoid that hurt. Unfortunately, you can't avoid it. As long as that suppressed hurt is in you, it's going to get triggered.The moment that happens, you feel threatened.

Instantly you become full of fear and upset. You close down and lose your ability to see clearly. You also get tunnel vision.
You get tunnel vision because, subconsciously, the only thnig that you are interested in is how to remove that threat.It's that tunnel vision that sabotages your life.When you are in that state of tunnel vision, you destroy your ability to see what works. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdarw.

This in turn dsetroys love and creates opposition and resistance against yourself.
Almost anything you do in that state makes your situtaion worse. We'll talk more about that after.You will soon dicsover that any area of your life that isn't working is an area where you have tunnel vision. Without knowing, you are operating in a state of fear, upest and resistance. This in turn gives power to whatever you are resisiting.
You literally make your situation worse.Your particular circumstanecs may seem to be the problem, but they're not. Your circumstances are just a symptom of a deeper prbolem. The real problem is that underlying condition of resistance.As long as you focus on the circumstances without addressing that underlying condition, nothing will ever change.Notice how ineffective you have been in handling the aeras of your life where you suffer.

Notice that no mtater what you do, these areas still don't work.
This is cause you are focusing in the symptoms instead of the cause.To have your life clear up, take the focus off of the circumstances and look for the underlying conditoin that creates the problem.
Find the hurt that fuels the resistance.The process for finding and healing that hurt is relatively sipmle and very non-confronting. This is cause the hurt isn't based on what happened.
It's based on certain beliefs you made up as a reslut of what happened. Once that illusion is exposed, the hurt loses power and you set yourself free.Once you find and heal that hurt, the areas of your life that don't work automatically begin to celar up. The tunnel visoin disappears and so does the fear and upset.
You resotre your ability to see clearly. You become creative, resourceful and able to discover solutinos you could never have seen before.It is possible to create a life that will exceed your dreams.
The steps for creating a life that works are relatively simple, but you have to take them!